Articles
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Narrative
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This is a personal essay I wrote about my experiences with violence, sexuality & the BDSM undertones they take on. I think the topic is more nuanced than a lot of people give it credit for—we can do better than just accepting that dominance, sexuality and violence go hand in hand. People beating each other up in the bedroom for fun is both surprisingly normalised and incredibly under-discussed. I hope that this piece demonstrates that sentiment.
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I like writing tragedy. It’s hard to do melodrama, but it makes me feel something more than writing happy endings.
Essay
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Hypergamy is a terminally online (or social science) term for ‘dating up’ habitually or across demographics. We’re trying to do some re-education today. Let’s get into it.
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If worms, insects and other creepy crawlies can solve problems and feel pain, does that mean they can feel love? Probably not—because emotion, as humans know it, demands a kind of consciousness and contextual processing that bugs just don’t seem to have.
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My experiences with philosophy as a means of making decisions in life. Plus some lamenting about a breakup. Enjoy.
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This thought piece is one that I wrote to discuss a very personally impactful set of thoughts, feelings and attitudes in mid-late 2023. Whilst my disposition, circumstances and behaviour have all changed since, I still believe in the value of this essay because of the emotion projected and the evergreen relevance of the concepts discussed.
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I change my mind a lot, it’s part of growing up. Being aware of this, sometime in 2023 I tried writing something future-proof, that I’d come to look at years later and still agree with because of the principles I outlined. So far, I think I did a decent job.
Professional
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This is a guide to how I think about language in communication, using the framework of a concept I call selective synonymy. Inside, we discuss the construction of sentences as a method of achieving the most ideal connotations inside our languages.
Educational
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As part of my efforts to document different forms of communication, I try and outline commonly understood (or misunderstood) terms in communication and pop psychology and break them down so people can be healthier communicators. This is about gaslighting, what it is/isn’t, and how you can deal with it.
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A comprehensive breakdown of typical stages in romantic relationship development.
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This article is an introduction to a simple linguistic concept called presuppositions. We use these to embed subtle contextual communication to normal sentences. Understanding how it works will make you a better communicator and listener. Part of a tutorial series I wrote when I was getting into technical writing.
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In this article, we take a look at a more thoughtful and philosophical approach to being attractive—hopefully inspiring some better attitudes without promoting any unhealthy ideas or practices. This is how attraction works.
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The Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord is a tool and philosophy used within Relationship Anarchy (RA) that helps individuals define and structure their relationships by picking and choosing components, such as commitment level, sex, and shared resources, that align with their personal values.
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The balance of factors, contexts and influence created by resources is summed up as a power dynamic. Understanding what a power dynamic is can help manage their relationships with more transparency and integrity.
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When I was a hypnotherapist, a lot of my clients would often ask me about the feelings they had around conflict in their relationships, mentioning their partner often minimised their feelings or shut down their own accountability. This inspired me to write this as one of my first posts, to help notice and combat the manipulative tactic of plausible deniability. I hope it helps.
